For the past two decades, blogger Sean Miller has counseled at a number of abortion mills in New Jersey. In this post, he shares what he has learned about sidewalk counseling, “the delicate balancing act between urgency and gentleness.”
“Sidewalk Counseling”
Sidewalk counseling outside an abortion clinic – human lives are at stake, and you’re on the front lines. You may be the last lifeline of hope for a pregnant woman as she approaches the building to abort her child. She and those with her tend to be in a fragile state, wrestling with conflicting emotions. Things can happen quickly.
Knowing what to say and how to say it is of utmost importance. It can make the difference between a person accepting your help or walking away.
If you’re considering becoming a part of this important work, I’d like to share with you a few of the important things I’ve learned. I’ve been counseling for 20 years now. And just like anything else, the more experience one has … well, it never gets easy, but it does get less difficult.
The Approach
How should you approach a couple who are seeking an abortion?
First, It’s important to understand where they’re coming from. Their emotions are in turmoil, overwhelming and volatile.
Internally, they’ve been going through a battle between what they’re tempted to do and what they should do. And now that they’ve decided to come to the abortion facility, many of them feel the question of whether or not to go through with the abortion has been resolved.
At this point, they just want to get this experience over with quickly so that they can get on with their lives and forget about the entire ordeal.
But, to their surprise, they see individuals on the sidewalk who appear to be standing in their way. A bunch of “religious zealots,” they think, who only want to harass them and make them feel guilty and add to the heavy burden that rests on their shoulders.
So how should we, the sidewalk counselors, respond? Continue reading

